Strange and Wonderful Mother’s Day Gift

Since I was leading a discussion after the Bully movie on Saturday, I put on a suit and curled my hair.
While driving my son, David, to visit an AddFamily friend, I asked him, “How do I look?”

David now 11-1/2 sits in the front seat with me more often now, so we had a clear view of each other.
His placid, matter of fact (almost deadpan) answer was surprising, “Really ugly.”

I laughed with the joy I always feel at his honesty and/or humor (not knowing which it might be), and asked, “Why?”
“Because you look like you are ‘trying to look pretty’ by curling your hair.”
With more open and curious questions he clarified, “Your hair looks weird curled because it is not what you look like, your hair is prettier the way it normally is.”
Honesty! This is what we get to love about preteen kids getting waves of hormones.

The gift of hormone-laden people, like toddlers and elders, is that we need less political correctness. Wouldn’t it be great if EVERYONE forgave everyone else for bluntness?
It is up to me as recipient to NOT take things personally.

When I look for the truth of David’s honesty, I am happiest that he feels safe to be that blunt with me There was PLENTY of acknowledgement in what he said for me to see truth in his choice of words. Lots of exposure to children helps me hear the whole, real message most children are giving, ~ and it is not that different with many adults! All parents can learn (choose) to see bluntly honesty as a clear reflection of the values we have consistently lived.

I will not stop curling my hair (as infrequently as it happens) since I like the way it looks curled AND straight.
Rather, I will be adding extra gratitude for the light of truth that shines in my home with a child who is getting more of his hormones every day.

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About Monica

Monica McGuire has lived in Santa Cruz over 16 years practicing as a Health Coach, specifically coaching people to find their best "Self-Healing Lifestyle". Born sensitive to toxins of all sorts, Monica has honed hundreds of self-healing strategies over the last 25 years. Her Self-Healing LIfestyle signature system helps her clients achieve more Vital, Radiant Health ~ for life. Monica has an intense commitment for herself and others to live long, active, pain-free lives (as opposed to the now-common need for convalescence and nursing homes). Her programs have demonstrated increased vitality, age reversal, and the disappearance of physical pain ~ all simpler when coached through her step-by-step system. Comforts and habits that aren't serving us are clues toward easy, do-able practices that bring the kind of glowing health she loves to share. Monica also spent 10 years as a financial planning professional, and seeks to make her recommendations for healthy living affordable and accessible to everyone.
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One Response to Strange and Wonderful Mother’s Day Gift

  1. John says:

    You’ve a great mom, and David’s a great kid. I think that about sums it up.

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